5 THINGS I WISH YOU KNEW BEFORE WELCOMING NEW PARENTS INTO YOUR HOUSE

Knock. Knock. We made it! Finally, we managed to get ourselves together and show up at your doorstep. I know we are late but we made it. It’s going to be fun. Long talks over dinner. Wine and laughs. Just like old times! Oh no wait. Its not. We will not skip the wine. But our long tals are sure to be interupted. We have a baby now, and here is what I wish you knew before you welcomed the new us into your house. The parents us.
1. NO WE ARE NOT EXPECTING GIFTS
We spent last few months taking care of the baby and doing little else. A little socialising is going to do us a ton of good. And that’s all we are looking for. You don’t have to spend your this weeks grocery budget on a fancy toy. Or worse yet, we don’t need that goodie bag with all those hand me downs. Save yourself some trouble. We came here to have some conversations and some good laughs.
2. WE DON’T NEED ADVICE, CRITICISM AND COMPARISONS
I know you have been dying to see if I lost my baby weight and I know you have been keeping tab on all our baby’s milestones and I also know you have tonnes of advice. I know your son had already started crawling at this age. I also know that as new parents we have been doing a few things wrong. But let us be. Allow us to make our mistakes and learn from them. No, I am not disputing your expertise in the subject (that charming 1st grader of yours with all straight A’s) but we are just tired of hearing do’s and don’ts. Of course when we need your advice we will ask and please be understanding at that time but as of now let’s talk about the weather. Did you hear about the new spring sale?
3. WATCH HOW YOUR KIDS BEHAVE AROUND OUR BABY
I would really love if our kids end up as best of pals like us and we will work towards that soon. We will visit zoos and parks together. We will travel and watch movies together. We will have those barbeques and campfires. But as of today my son is a few months old and your kids have to understand that its a baby and not a toy. Trying to lift him or pulling hands, legs or hair is not acceptable behavior. Pressuring me to wake a sleeping baby is also not. Kindly explain to them and it would be best if you had the conversation before we arrived.
4. DON’T FORCE FEED US
You are wonderful people and I really appreciate the amount of work that went into getting that dinner ready. But don’t force feed us anything. Sure I used to love that pudding but now my preferences have changed. It happens to some people postpartum. Again, please don’t take it personally. I am still going to call you when I decide the menu for my childs first birtday party.
Maybe your son had avacado when he was 6 months old but I would like to wait till 8. Also, if my baby is trying a new food, it would rather be at home. Please don’t press much and make it hard for us to refuse. There are other ways of being helpful and nice like packing leftover food, that we can use for dinner tonight. It would save us some work. Thank-you!
5. IF SOMEONE IS SICK PLEASE LET US KNOW.
This might come across as insensitive but we have had our share of sleepless nights. A blocked nose is only going to make it worse. Please let us keep the baby away from the sick person even if it’s just cold. Call us prior if you can. even last minute is okay. We can reschedule.
Sorry if I sound rude. Sorry if I am expecting too much. It’s just that things have been rough. Just give us some time and it will be like the good old days again! Drop by sometime.
Lots of Love

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